Help Ourselves (feat. Harper O'Neill)

The song dives deep into the chaos of a relationship that’s both enticing and damaging. Ty Myers expresses feelings of confusion and regret, questioning why he chooses to lead such a reckless life. He knows the impact of his choices on himself and his partner, but there’s a sense of helplessness that comes through. The theme of needing help is strong, showing how both people in the relationship are trapped in a cycle of pain and addiction.

Verse 1

Today was one of those days
That drags too long and ends too late for me
Sometimes I get to wondering why
I chose to live this reckless life I lead
And rope you in with me

In this first verse, Ty sets the scene for a tough day filled with introspection. He feels the weight of time stretching out, which hints at his emotional struggle. The mention of a "reckless life" suggests he knows he’s making bad choices but still can't help himself. Roping someone else into his mess shows a mix of selfishness and vulnerability, indicating he’s aware of the consequences but feels unable to change.

Chorus

This ain't no goodbye
You'll come crawling back when you've had your fill
I'll get a call in the night at half past 12
Three months later, I should fuck myself

The chorus captures a sense of inevitability. He’s confident that his partner will return, despite the chaos they both face. The late-night call symbolizes how relationships can become patterns of behavior, where both people keep falling back into old habits. The rawness of “I should fuck myself” reveals a deep frustration and self-loathing, suggesting he feels trapped in this cycle.

Verse 2

I keep on climbing
I just can't seem to get over this hill
Me and dark liquor, yeah, we made a deal
If I keep drinking, then the hurt is healed
Everyone knows you've been putting me through hell
I should probably keep that bottle on the shelf

Here, Ty talks about the struggle to overcome his challenges. The metaphor of climbing a hill shows he’s trying hard, but it feels like an uphill battle. Dark liquor represents his coping mechanism, a way to numb his pain. He acknowledges that it’s not a healthy choice but feels drawn to it anyway. The line about being put through hell highlights the difficulties in his relationship, suggesting that both partners are suffering.

Chorus

But we can't seem to help ourselves

This repeated line reinforces the theme of helplessness. It’s almost like a mantra, emphasizing that despite knowing they need to change, they’re stuck in the same patterns. It’s catchy, but it also carries a heavy weight of truth.

Bridge

Today's one of those days
Not a corner of my mind was safe from you
I get tired of staying high
Truth is, the Mary Jane don't ease my mind like it used to
But what else can I do?

The bridge brings back the feeling of being overwhelmed. Ty feels that his thoughts are consumed by his partner, showing how deeply connected yet troubled they are. He admits that his usual escape, marijuana, isn’t working anymore, which adds to his frustration. The question “But what else can I do?” shows his desperation, as he grapples with the reality of his situation.

Outro

We can't seem to help ourselves
Yeah, yeah, yeah
We can't help ourselves
We can't help ourselves
Ooh, oh-oh, oh-oh

The outro echoes the chorus, driving home the idea that both he and his partner are caught in this unbreakable cycle. The repetition makes it feel almost like a confession, a chant of acceptance of their flaws. It leaves listeners with a haunting sense of resignation and the reality of their struggles.

Closing Thoughts

"Help Ourselves" is a poignant exploration of the pain that comes from toxic relationships and self-destructive habits. Ty Myers does an excellent job of capturing the emotional turmoil that can arise from feeling trapped, both in love and in his own choices. The song feels relatable, as it speaks to the struggles many face in balancing love and personal well-being. It’s a reminder that sometimes, we’re our own worst enemies, and breaking free from that cycle is often the hardest part.